Therapy will only be a good investment for your relationship if you are willing to put forth a significant and conscious effort. It will require you to complete homework outside of session—taking what you learn in session home with you and diligently practicing new ways of communicating with your partner.
Read MoreThere are many reasons we struggle with forgiveness. Know that no one can forgive before they are ready to do so. Reflect on what is acceptable and unacceptable for you in the context of the relationship and then let go of the expectations that demand what the other person cannot give. Consider that without forgiveness you will always be bound to the relationship that is painful. Decide instead to give yourself the gift of forgiveness
Read MoreIntimacy cannot exist where there is dishonesty and secrecy. Reestablishing trust after an affair calls for honesty—a willingness on the part of the person who has been unfaithful to admit responsibility for their behavior and to get clear about their commitment to the relationship. Is this easy? No, but it is a necessary part of healing and strengthening a relationship after infidelity.
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