Therapy is too often viewed as something we do when we are experiencing problems—work to do when there is a problem to ‘fix’. Perhaps approaching couple therapy as a ‘wellness visit’—a commitment to the health of a relationship rather than as a last-ditch effort to save a dying relationship, might be a more sensible approach.
Read MoreTherapy will only be a good investment for your relationship if you are willing to put forth a significant and conscious effort. It will require you to complete homework outside of session—taking what you learn in session home with you and diligently practicing new ways of communicating with your partner.
Read MoreIntimacy cannot exist where there is dishonesty and secrecy. Reestablishing trust after an affair calls for honesty—a willingness on the part of the person who has been unfaithful to admit responsibility for their behavior and to get clear about their commitment to the relationship. Is this easy? No, but it is a necessary part of healing and strengthening a relationship after infidelity.
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